Here’s how you can have an awesome hookup experience
As we go on the hunt for casual hookups, the usual advice applies: Make a great first date impression, be confident with the girl and close the deal. Remember, your body language is important – most attractions are made within 5 minutes of two people meeting each other.
Besides that, there are a few things you will need to know, especially if you are new to the scene and have no idea what to expect. Reality and fantasy are usually worlds apart and it will be wise to keep in mind some of our best tips below.
1. Keep Your Expectations Low
If this is your first time meeting your girl for a hookup, keep your expectations low. People usually show the best side of them in photos, so whatever photos you see, discount them by at least 30%. If she looks exactly like her photos, then its a massive bonus, but don’t bet your farm on it.
Keep your expectations low so that when you meet her, you won’t start nitpicking about how “she is not that hot 9 you thought you were talking to”. Just take things easy and enjoy the date if you really don’t wish to consummate the deal.
2. It Is NOT A Porn Movie
You might have certain grand visions of how hookups are going to be, especially if it is your first time. In fact, you may be feeling a little pressured to perform to perfection. A hookup is not a porn movie. You are not expected to sustain 127 minutes of non-stop bedroom action.
You are not going to be moving your girl across 72 different positions and have such a crazy time you start breaking furniture. Rather, you are just going to have normal, “boring” sex. Just have a good time and keep the fantasies at home for personal pleasures. It doesn’t need to be earth-shattering for the both of you to enjoy the session and for more in the future.
3. Be Careful On Emotional Attachments
We wouldn’t put it past a hookup to turn into something more serious, these have happened before and can lead to beautiful, fulfilling relationships. At the same time, these occasions are extremely rare.
Be careful of getting too emotionally attached, and take your time to feel out whether such feelings in the other party is being reciprocated before you make things awkward for everyone.
4. Be Safe
Do we really need to emphasis the need for wearing condoms and practising safe sex? Many guys are tempted to go uncovered because they find condoms less pleasurable. But sometimes, you can’t have everything.
Being safe is extremely underrated. Don’t even think “just this once”. The reality is that you just need to be unlucky ONCE. By the time you get that fungi or cauliflower growing on your little man’s head, your regret will be eternal.
5. Not All Hookup Sites Are Equal
There are thousands of hookup sites out there and every single one is promising the same thing – casual hookups. As consumers ourselves, we know all too well how confusing this huge selection is. There are various different choices out there – some are megasites (e.g. AdultFriendFinder, Passion.com) while others caters to niche segments such as cougar dating, Asian dating or Latino dating.
Unfortunately, due to the rise of shady sites finding easy money by luring men into useless subscriptions, it became a real challenge to find legit hookup sites that can let you heat things up with REAL women.
We have gotten after fingers burnt many times ourselves. Thankfully, we managed to spread the wasted costs among 7 of us, and in the process, figure out which are the best hookup sites out there. If you are ready to get started, check out our review of Passion.com and read about our personal experiences on this hookup site.
Hopefully the tips above have helped you get a better understanding and a small reality check as to how hookups are really like. Just remember this: hookups are not meant to be glamorous, just enjoyable. So keep calm and start hooking up!